Question: How do I relate with my pastor such that I will be able to enjoy the blessing of God on his life?
Answer: This write up is made to answer this question, I believe it will be a blessing to all who read it.
Being a servant of God can be very tasking and challenging. This may be because there are a lot of expectation both from God and the people whom we are anointed to serve.
According to the main scripture for this writup, a high priest is a man chosen by God as a representative of God among men and the representative of men before God.
Men believe that the servants of God should be flawless. As far as people are concerned, any other person can make mistake but a servant of God should be above board when it comes to mistakes. How true is this expectation?
1 For every high priest chosen from among men is appointed to act on behalf of men in relation to God, to offer gifts and sacrifices for sins. ESV
1 For every high priest taken from among men is ordained for men in things pertaining to God, that he may offer both gifts and sacrifices for sins: KJV
FOR EVERY high priest chosen from among men is appointed to act on behalf of men in things relating to God, to offer both gifts and sacrifices for sins. (Hebrews 5:1 AMP)
From the point of view of a servant of God, I can say that we should make every effort to be beyond flaws. We should be the example of the believer in very area of our lives 1Timothy 4:12 says "Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity."
First, in our marriage, your family life should be an example of the life you expect others to live. After all, why should you teach others to do what you do not do. Don't be a Pharisee. Matthew 23:1-3 "1 Then spake Jesus to the multitude, and to his disciples, 2 Saying, The scribes and the Pharisees sit in Moses 'seat: 3 All therefore whatsoever they bid you observe, that observe and do; but do not ye after their works: for they say, and do not."
No matter how difficult it may be, do your best to be an example of the believer. Even if your wife or your husband is not the cooperating type, as a man you should still love her no matter how difficult and as a woman, you should do your best to submit under his authority . This is because whether we know it or not, many of the people who respect us do so with the expectation that our marriages should be a model for them. There is a woman of God in Nigeria whose name I would not want to mention; in the early 90s, her television program is an household Christian program for many of us in Nigeria but because her husband died and she did not know how to manage her emotional life, she lost all the relevance she had. Her relevance is nothing now though she is still alive. What happened was that, after she lost her husband, she got involved with a young man who later divorced her and then she went ahead to marry another man but the marriage did not last. My prayer is that the Lord would bring back her glory in Jesus name. ( I am actually shedding tears as I write about this woman of God) I know it that God does not look at our perfection to use us; however I am also aware of the fact that He expects us to clean up or mess in life in other that we may be a good example of the believer. Just know this as a servant of God that you are representing God by what you do all the time.
The word of God is the secret code for u raveling any problem you might be having in. Life. Love when practiced by a man has power to change any woman and submission, when practiced by a woman has power to change any man. By the grace of God Kama living proof of this fact. As a man, I had problems with my marriage for many years. But on a particular day. I heard a man of God said on the television that love can change anybody. Once I heard it, I was determined to give it a try and to my surprise, all I expect from my wife began to manifest without any kind of struggle and as she begin to submit to me more as a wife, I find myself doing for her what I never thought I would have imagined to do for her. I begin to love her more emotionally and I began to Trust her more; all because we both decide to do what the scripture says.
The grace of God upon your life is that which helps you to overcome any kind of sin and temptation to sin. Even Jesus was tempted in every way just like us, but He remained faithful to God and His calling, so should you. "For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Hebrews 4:15
To those of us who are not the servants of God, I would want you to know that the people God uses are still men and women who make themselves available to be used. They are not perfect people, they are only called and anointed to represent God among men. They are MEN and WOMEN with their human weaknesses and frailties. Give them the opportunity of growing up. The call of God upon their lives does not imply that they are mature in the things of God, they are simply persons that God has predestined to use among men. Expect the best from them; but don't be disappointed when you see their mistakes; they need your prayers and encouragement. Many a time, being a servant of God makes them lonely. They are free to see other peoples' mistake but no one wants to see their own mistakes. They are expected to pray for others but most of the time, nobody takes time to pray for them. Who knows, maybe the reason why God allow you to see their faults is because He has chosen you as someone He wants to use for them in their time of trouble. To castigate them and expose their shame is to give the devil more reasons to attack the church of God; however, when you make effort to cover their shame and pray for them, you may be preserving someone God would later use for great exploit.
Moses was a murderer; Jacob was a cheat and a liar; Peter swear and cursed in the name of the Lord; Paul killed Apostle Stephen, yet God used all of them. Priscilla and Aquila may not be apostles but they helped Apollo to know how to better present the gospel of salvation. "And a certain Jew named Apollos, born at Alexandria, an eloquent man, and mighty in the scriptures, came to Ephesus. 25 This man was instructed in the way of the Lord; and being fervent in the spirit, he spake and taught diligently the things of the Lord, knowing only the baptism of John. 26 And he began to speak boldly in the synagogue: whom when Aquila and Priscilla had heard, they took him unto them, and expounded unto him the way of God more perfectly." Acts. 18:24-26
God is not looking for perfect people, He is only looking for available people who are willing to be used.
Moses may have been called with an extra ordinary calling, yet, he still needed the wisdom of Jethro his father in law on how to administer the people and his time for effective ministry. "And it came to pass on the morrow, that Moses sat to judge the people: and the people stood by Moses from the morning unto the evening. 14 And when Moses 'father in law saw all that he did to the people, he said, What is this thing that thou doest to the people? why sittest thou thyself alone, and all the people stand by thee from morning unto even? 15 And Moses said unto his father in law, Because the people come unto me to enquire of God: 16 When they have a matter, they come unto me; and I judge between one and another, and I do make them know the statutes of God, and his laws. 17 And Moses' father in law said unto him, The thing that thou doest is not good. 18 Thou wilt surely wear away, both thou, and this people that is with thee: for this thing is too heavy for thee; thou art not able to perform it thyself alone. 19 Hearken now unto my voice, I will give thee counsel, and God shall be with thee: Be thou for the people to God- ward, that thou mayest bring the causes unto God: 20 And thou shalt teach them ordinances and laws, and shalt shew them the way wherein they must walk, and the work that they must do. 21 Moreover thou shalt provide out of all the people able men, such as fear God, men of truth, hating covetousness; and place such over them, to be rulers of thousands, and rulers of hundreds, rulers of fifties, and rulers of tens: 22 And let them judge the people at all seasons: and it shall be, that every great matter they shall bring unto thee, but every small matter they shall judge: so shall it be easier for thyself, and they shall bear the burden with thee. 23 If thou shalt do this thing, and God command thee so, then thou shalt be able to endure, and all this people shall also go to their place in peace. 24 So Moses hearkened to the voice of his father in law, and did all that he had said. 25 And Moses chose able men out of all Israel, and made them heads over the people, rulers of thousands, rulers of hundreds, rulers of fifties, and rulers of tens. 26 And they judged the people at all seasons: the hard causes they brought unto Moses, but every small matter they judged themselves." Exodus 18:13-26
You may actually be a spiritual midwife meant to help birth great vision out of the life of that great man and woman of God. It's your choice to either help him get better or help the devil to run him down, the choice is yours.